People Who Panic Are Brave. You Should Be, Too.

About a decade ago, while surfing the Internet, I stumbled on a page written by someone who suffers from panic disorder. She was offering a course on how to overcome anxiety. I read her descriptions of not being able to leave her apartment with a complete lack of understanding. What was so hard about going … Continue reading People Who Panic Are Brave. You Should Be, Too.

Feel Like Your Work and Personal Life Are in Tension? There’s Just One Answer.

Here’s a variation on a familiar saying: Life is what happens while you’re trying to get your work done. For many of us, balancing the demands of work and relationships feels impossible. These can be relationships with parents, partners, children, friends, and also ourselves. What we need to do to make a living feels at … Continue reading Feel Like Your Work and Personal Life Are in Tension? There’s Just One Answer.

The One Reason You Might Think You Don’t Like Breathwork and Four More to Give It a Try

If you are like me, the very thought of breathwork can leave you gasping for air. No form of mindfulness sounds less relaxing or restoring than being asked to focus on your breath. Your heart starts racing. Your breathing becomes fast and shallow. Or maybe you get a queasy feeling in your stomach. For people … Continue reading The One Reason You Might Think You Don’t Like Breathwork and Four More to Give It a Try

The Anatomy of a Broken Heart, and How to Heal One

The death of a loved one. The rupture of a relationship. The loss of a job. The failure of a project. The dismantling of a dream. The end of an era. There are many reasons that the heart breaks, that we feel an emptiness in the center of our chests as the world around us … Continue reading The Anatomy of a Broken Heart, and How to Heal One

Don’t Be Afraid to Hurt Those You Love

You may think from the title that this post is about being selfish or taking advantage of people. It’s actually about learning to love more. And it’s not written for sadists or manipulators; it is for caretakers and co-dependent types. We each have different styles of loving, and with them, comes different healing work to … Continue reading Don’t Be Afraid to Hurt Those You Love

Seeing My White Privilege

I don’t like the word, “privilege.” It connotes the idea of something better, something earned; and whiteness is neither. But the phrase #whiteprivilege has proved useful in explaining the differences in daily experience between people who are white and people of color. This is an essay I wrote several years ago under the title, “Why … Continue reading Seeing My White Privilege

You Don’t Have to Believe in Yourself

On really hard days, if I’m lucky, the theme song to the children’s show, “Arthur,” pops into my head. “Just believe in yourself,” a voice sings, “Well, that’s the place to start…” I smile, feel refreshed, and keep running up hill, ready to face my demons and what felt, just a moment before, like the … Continue reading You Don’t Have to Believe in Yourself