People Who Panic Are Brave. You Should Be, Too.

About a decade ago, while surfing the Internet, I stumbled on a page written by someone who suffers from panic disorder. She was offering a course on how to overcome anxiety. I read her descriptions of not being able to leave her apartment with a complete lack of understanding. What was so hard about going … Continue reading People Who Panic Are Brave. You Should Be, Too.

Feel Like Your Work and Personal Life Are in Tension? There’s Just One Answer.

Here’s a variation on a familiar saying: Life is what happens while you’re trying to get your work done. For many of us, balancing the demands of work and relationships feels impossible. These can be relationships with parents, partners, children, friends, and also ourselves. What we need to do to make a living feels at … Continue reading Feel Like Your Work and Personal Life Are in Tension? There’s Just One Answer.

Seeing My White Privilege

I don’t like the word, “privilege.” It connotes the idea of something better, something earned; and whiteness is neither. But the phrase #whiteprivilege has proved useful in explaining the differences in daily experience between people who are white and people of color. This is an essay I wrote several years ago under the title, “Why … Continue reading Seeing My White Privilege

Breaking Up with a Narcissist – Advice for Our Country

How do you break up with a narcissist? How do you get rid of that toxic person in your life? Earlier in history, these might have been mere self-help questions, but now they concern the whole country. How do we, as a nation, break up with Donald Trump? How do we let go of our … Continue reading Breaking Up with a Narcissist – Advice for Our Country

Asking the Big Questions

The other day a reader on Facebook contacted me. He wanted to get a professional philosopher’s take on a question. “What do you think…,” he asked, “of the meaning of existence?” “Well, that’s a big question,” I could hear my own advisor answering in my head.  In academic philosophy, we are trained to be very … Continue reading Asking the Big Questions